Re: Rage quitting or proper exit etiquette?
There's only one character that I've ever had to completely and totally purge and it was due to the GM and co-GMs complete and total backpedaling and, eventually, their abandonment. I was writing a fantasy novel at the time and there was an ad in the Wanted: Players forum for a freeform game that was a perfect fit for the main character of the novel. I thought it was a great chance to explore the mindset of that character and maybe flesh him out a little more, giving him substantially more depth than I would have been able to just from writing. I sent that GM a PM and laid out my thoughts and we agreed it was an excellent idea and that he was, surprisingly, a good fit. She also expressed her gratitude that I was bringing in a character that had some actual DEPTH because all the other characters that she'd been submitted were the one-dimensional Mary Sue/Author Avatar-types that those types of games reel in.
I had one stipulation to diving in to the game and that was the caveat that, if the game should fold or she was thinking about jumping ship, she'd allow me to bow the character out of the game, remove all identifying information about him, and change the character's name (in order to protect my future, potential IP). She agreed and I joined up. All was well for about two months when she suddenly elected to retire from her GM duties and pass the buck along to a new GM. Before she left, we had a conversation between the three of us (myself, the old GM, and the new one) where I reiterated my stipulation and, again, received assurances that I'd be given a fair and proper chance to excise my character if the need arises.
Two and a half months after the regime change, the game had completely changed focus. Rather than being a multiversal adventure full of fun, quirky, and interesting new worlds, it became a spherical yank, if you catch my drift, of Mary Sues trying to out-perfect each other. We had a white dragon goddess arguing the truth of divinity with a half-vampire Super Saiyan who had visited Midgar and collected the Life, Meteor, and Neo Bahamut Materias. We had an immortal werewolf with bi-polar disorder pursuing a romantic relationship with a half-Japanese, half-Kryptonian cyborg from a dimension where everybody had shapeshifting powers.
Meanwhile, my poor Elven Ranger-Captain was just slogging around in the background because everybody else was too busy playing fantasy footsie with each other to bother with an adventure.
I honestly had flashbacks to being in Rhy'Din again.
I submitted my Exit Request to both the new GM and the old (who still had an active PC in the game) and said, "Look, I just don't think this is going to work anymore. I've tried to engage other players and characters and I'm just being roundly ignored. The focus of this game has shifted from "explore strange, new worlds" to "find the darkest, shadowiest corner in the tavern and do nothing but brood". I'd like to leave this game and, per our agreement, bow [My Character] out."
I was met with a stonewalled silence. No recognition of what I said, no response, no removal. For two weeks, I quietly (not that anybody paid any attention) roleplayed out the agreed-upon Exit Scenario that we'd devised, simultaneously introducing his replacement - a secondary PC that I'd created solely for that purpose to avoid overly burdening the other PCs by a drop-out. After the Exit Scenario played out, I sent another request, this time making it known that "Hey, I know you two are busy and everything, but [First Character] has been taken out of play, per our agreement and [Second Character] is now in play. Can you do me a favor and delete [First Character] now?"
Silence. Again.
I eventually (about three MONTHS!! later) took matters into my own hands and just wiped his Character Sheet, his description, everything. The new GM noticed and then jumped on me about "disrupting" the RP by arbitrarily removing a "key" character from the game. A "key" character, mind you, that hadn't posted in three months and not a single, solitary soul noticed or even mentioned. My intended replacement character never even got a 'Hello' from other PCs or either GMs' characters.
That game did eventually fold and my character was STILL NOT DELETED.
Sorry for the essay, everybody, but it just kind of poured out of the old sieve. Sometimes when all other options have been exhausted, I feel it's okay to take your ball and go home.