I found my fiance online and started talking six years ago. We met in RL two years ago and will be married in a month. ^_^

Many people are looking for hookups, but if you give it time you can definitely see who stays after the original contact, doesn't get bored, likes you for you, who you click with and so on. I think the main problem is that people get too excited right off the bat, don't use their heads and usually start thinking with their apples and oranges and that never works out.

UGGGHHHH!!

After having writer's block all week, I finally got inspired and came up with a good post.  What happens next before I could hit the post button?  I hit a wrong button and everything I had written, almost 4 paragraphs long, gone.  UGHHHH!!!  I hate when that happens.

My impression was that she has an eating disorder, clings to the idea of vegetarian on the hope that it will translate into fewer calories and weight loss automatically (or is preventing any further gain), and bad-mouths your animal products because secretly she is trying to reinforce her own weak convictions against not eating it also, trying to reinforce herself by pushing against others to hold herself above water.

Relatively common (and ineffective) psychological defense.

Kind of pitiable. I would probably apologize, say you didn't intend to hurt her but that her behavior is also hurting you with its acerbity. You will avoid telling her what she can and can't eat if she offers the same courtesy.


Although depending on what you eat I might complain too (or rather, politely ask you to throw it out somewhere else). I hate lingering smells that are around for no good reason (especially when they aren't produced by me :P ). For example, someone throwing out their hot lunch in a nearby uncovered communal wastebasket rather than walking the smelly trash to a larger, possibly outdoors receptacle so that the room is not indelibly marked for the remainder of the day.

EDIT: And if the bag of chocolate was closed and uncompromised when she threw it out, I see no problem with retrieving it. Unless it had simply become so darn buried in gross stuff and I couldn't wash my hands immediately.

That's why when I throw away food I purposely don't want to finish, I dump the items out first into the garbage then put the empty bag on top. Less tempting that way :)
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In reply to kouk (msg # 953):

Or better yet have delicious chunky curry for lunch one day and throw half of it away still steaming hot, make sure to dump it out, so it doesn't fester in the bowl

_{i'm terrible}

In reply to kouk (msg # 953):

I don't think I throw out anything with an odor that anyone else around me would describe as offensive. My lunch usually is a salad with bacon on top and a mustardy dressing. When I don't bring lunch from home I go for Asian take out, hamburgers and fries, spaghetti and meat sauce or whatever's in the vending machine. It's not like I'm tossing out leaky sardine cans. BTW, I love sardines.

I don't know if there was anything gross in the bin when she pulled the chocolate out. I said "Eww!" because I couldn't pass up the opportunity to be a breadfruit

She came up to my desk today while I was eating lunch and just kind of sighed and hung around until she realized that I wasn't going to say anything.

I asked, "What do you want?"

She said, "I want to apologize."

I said, "You're forgiven. Go."

She stood there looking confused for a few seconds, then walked away. I don't think I'll have to speak to her again unless we're paired up for an assignment. Whatever she says or does about my lunch from here out, I'm over it.

Vent closed.

Usual procedure is to also apologize, when someone else comes to apologize, such as for the Ewww when she pulled the chocolate out or whatever. ;)

In reply to Genghis the Hutt (msg # 956):

Too much to ask from the average person these days Genghis. Mutual apology can't exist with the size of people's egos.

That's a really dumb procedure. I can't imagine why anyone would want to in the situation. And if you don't want to, the apology is meaningless.

And for me it wouldn't be about ego. It would be about honesty. I wouldn't have any reason to apologize for something I'm not sorry for.

So much I want to do, games I feel the NEED to get caught back up in. And My eyes start to hurt at even short blocks of text...

Any tips on getting to sleep sooner? My shifts were changed to 5 am or so usualy so I am lucky to get 3 hours of sleep many nights.

Things that help me:

- not sleeping near my computer or phone
- setting out my clothes the night before
- no workouts after 7PM
- no meals or snacks after 9PM
- chamomile tea around 8PM
- saving my homework for the morning, but only if I don't have much
- having a movie or audiobook that I know backwards and forwards playing in the background while I get ready for bed

hmmm maybe I should try the tea? I fit most else. Might be sheer habbit the morning shifts started last week.

No caffeine after 2 PM.
Short term?  Try an over the counter sleep aid.

Also Melatonin is a natural hormone that helps regulate your sleep cycle. So long as you take it roughly the same time each night you'll be on the right track to changing your body's circadian rhythms. Just take it along with some of the other tips for the first few nights and then regularly before bedtime for another couple weeks.

Your body will then begin producing it normally around that time you set for bedtime.

*stares at the can of MD and facepalms*

hmmm I will try the caffeine thing.

In reply to spectre (msg # 964):

Melatonin is a don't for me. Merevel, if you already have intense dreams, you might not want to try it. Melatonin makes me feel drained. My arms and legs ache like I've been at the gym first thing in the morning. And I wake up super groggy, like I sat up all night watching tv instead of sleeping.

How much did you take? 1 milligram a night is the maximum safe dose. Anything more is OD.

I have chronic insomnia.  Taking Melatonin for long periods of time can mess up your natural production of melatonin.  If your insomnia is only an occasional problem, then fine, but if it's chronic, do not do it.  For me melatonin worked great, no side effects, no grogginess in the morning.  But I took it for too long and messed up my internal production.

That's why you only take it for a while to get your circadian rhythm on track. One month max.

Also, obviously your body already makes it, so taking it for too long can screw up the natural production and you become reliant on it. It's over the counter though and very safe.

I wonder if trying to get up at 3am every day would help?

In reply to Merevel (msg # 967):

About 1.5mg each night. I had 3mg tablets. I one about a half hour before bed for two nights. I pretty much freaked out over the dreams. After a couple days off of the melatonin, I tried again and cut the tablets in half. I took it for six days before I stopped.

I am always interested in dreams. It has been years since I added to the world of Austinalia, so do not tempt me!

In reply to Eggy (msg # 971):

Which is weird because that's actually less than you body produces for a natural sleep cycle.

One of my neighbors used to take 30mg a night... and gave her kids 10 a night... then I learned 1mg was the max safe dose... wow

I'm not trying to tempt you. I'm just trying to help. If you aren't already bothered by your dreams, then you'll probably be fine. But if you're like me and dreaming makes you feel like you experience at least eight days in a week, adding melatonin may make you feel like you're constantly awake. You will be tired. And I don't take anything that would interact with it, so it's not like a bad combo thing.