Re: Vents with allowed responses
Glad to hear the reaction from the grandparents was in the neutral-to-positive side of things. Grandparents...even aunts and uncles, for that matter, can be that way. My extended family is fairly close-knit, and I come from a conservative social background with a strong religious influence...but a lot of the choices I've made in my life, especially in the last decade, have been options that felt right for me, but stuff that I was sure my family would be less than thrilled about (like doing costumes for a burlesque troupe...) I never tried to keep it a secret, I just didn't go out of my way to tell anyone in my family about it, but so much of my family is on Facebook that it's getting to be fairly well-known (a couple of my nieces think it's fantastic, as I seem to be one of the few people in the family that they feel they can relate to, owing to my apparent 'black sheep' status...)
My uncle, who is now the sole surviving representative of his generation of the family, is the one person who I would potentially expect to frown the most on it. He's a very spiritual man (I phrase it that way because so many people I know take 'religious' to mean 'preachy about religion') and has actually had several positions of importance in his church. Every year at our family reunion, he takes me (and several others) aside for a little one-on-one talk...not necessarily in private, but just apart from the group enough that what he says is basically for your ears only. His words to me? "I'm proud of you...you've grown to be a fine man and you're doing good things with your life."
So very NOT what I expected to hear from him when I started this particular chapter in my life...
So, I'm glad to hear that Ericka's grandparents, at least, seem to be cut from the same cloth in that regard...you don't have to be perfect to be loved and valued by them. Whatever choices you make for your lives, be they together or separate, I'm impressed that you took this on the way you did and I'm happy that it's turned out as well as it has. I hope it keeps going smoothly. There will be a lot of tough roads ahead...best of luck in traversing them...but know that you are also setting out on creating one of the single greatest joys known to mankind. I've got several friends who could go on and on about all the things in their lives that they're happy to have...but without a single exception, whenever the topic has come up around them, their kids have always been the top of their list. (One friend has gone so far as to tell her daughter, on several occasions, "I made a lot of mistakes in my life...but the one thing I did right was having you.")