Re: Vents with allowed responses
ericka and Andrew: Is marriage an option? Having a baby is not a good reason to get married in itself, but if it's a possibility otherwise, now's a good time to give it serious consideration. I know the world is much more accustomed to unmarried parents than it used to be, but there are still legalities and attitudes that deal better with that acknowledgement of your commitment to one another and your future together. Also as an 'older person' I can say if my 18-year-old granddaughter told me she was pregnant, I'd ask her if she was getting married soon, and for all my belief that marrying because you 'have to' is usually a bad idea, I'd still probably rather she said that was in the plans. Of course if I were his grandparent, he wouldn't have been sleeping with his 18-year-old g/f under my roof with my knowledge. (My daughters were a bit horrified with how conservative I was about that, and they were long past 18 when the situation came up. But that may be a factor in my lack of grandchildren of your age.)
More than anything, you need to talk things all through, and present a united front, as a pair of adults, about what you plan. You are responsible for another life now, how are you going to deal with that, both short- and long-term? Can you both live together, and then with the baby, with one set of grandparents? Are ericka's plans for the fall still going to work now she's pregnant? Ericka's body is going to change in ways you can't really imagine, and her moods and emotions will probably do the same. Andrew, it's quite common for a pregnant woman to have mood swings that make PMS look like a picnic, and the added stress of your situation isn't going to help. (Ericka, this is NOT intended as an excuse of not trying to control yourself, expectant fathers have issues too, even though they aren't carrying a foreign entity in their own body!)
About the driving, your grandparents don't sound reasonable on the subject. Is there any real reason why they don't let your drive so that you can learn? Regardless, is there no other way for you to learn, a friend? driving school, if you can afford it? Even if you can't afford a car right away, being able to drive a borrowed car would be helpful.
And don't forget in your plans, that babies are demanding little creatures, totally dependent on you for everything. You can expect to be exhausted for quite a while, possibly starting even before the birth, but certainly for months after.
Good luck!